E. Stanley Jones, a long-term missionary to India, has written several books, including Victory Through Surrender — Self-Realization Through Self-Surrender. The book is out of print, but here is a short review:

Main point: “The one business of human living is to keep our wills coinciding with the will of God in self-surrender and constant obedience.” (p.34)

Second quote on the dust jacket: “I cannot go down any road on anything with anybody who has problems, without running straight into the necessity of self-surrender. I have only one remedy, for I find only one disease—self at the center, self trying to be God.”

The original title of Victory Through Surrender was “What happens to the self in the Christian faith?” Chapter 1 considers some of  “The Non-Christian Answers” to the question of what happens to the self. These include self-annihilation (in various Eastern religions), self-acceptance and self expression (secular psychology). (Jones doesn't mention self-glorification, which may play itself out in success in athletics, school, and career.)

Chapter 2 provides “The Christian Answer”. “Self-surrender is the strongest and most comprehensive word I know, and it needs such a strong word to meet what is involved. For what is involved is this: We hand back to God the self that is handed to us by the Creator; to surrender the one and only thing we own.” (p.29) “When we are surrendered to God, the Creator, and to Christ, the re-Creator, we are surrendered to creative love and hence are creative and fulfilled. We go singing on our way to our tasks ... “ (p.36) “But in all this is there no minus, is there no death, is it all life? No, there is a death, a death to the false life we have been living ... The false, unnatural world of sin and evil, the false self, organized around egoism, has to die. When Paul said: 'I have been crucified with Christ' he meant  that false world and that false self were crucified. He didn't mean [that] his self, his real self was annihilated, canceled, for in the next breath he says ... 'It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God.' The pattern of my life is the Son of God, and the power of my life is the Son of God. He is both pattern and power. 'Who loved me and gave himself for me' and that pattern is love and a self-giving love.” (p.36,7)

The title of Chapter 3 asks “Is God Cruel or Consistent in Demanding Self-Surrender?” On page 48 and 49 we read, “God obeys every law He demands of us. And He especially obeys and illustrates the law of finding His life by losing it. This principle is at the very heart of the universe.”

After washing His disciples' feet, Jesus said to them, "Do you understand what I have done for you? You call me 'Teacher' and 'Lord', and rightly so, for that is what I am. So if I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you ought also to wash one another's feet." (John 13:12-14) Jones makes much of the fact that Jesus changed the disciples' order — Teacher and Lord — to the order Lord and Teacher. "That change was important, vitally important. Jesus is not primarily Teacher — He is primarily Lord. Self-surrender to Jesus Christ as Lord is the primary emphasis in the Christian faith. ... [Jesus] teaches those who obey Him, and only those who obey Him. We know as much as we are willing to practice and no more.” ( p. 64)

"So it was no mere chance that the earliest Christian creed was 'Jesus is Lord', not 'Jesus is Teacher'. 'If thou wilt confess with thy mouth that "Jesus is Lord" ... thou shall be saved.' 'No man can say "Jesus is Lord" except by the Holy Spirit.' ... If 'Jesus is Lord' was the earliest Christian creed, then self-surrender to Jesus is the earliest Christian attitude and practice." (p. 65)

Among the most interesting and important features of the book are the "before and after" stories of people that have learned to surrender. Here are two of them and a third quote:

"A pastor and his wife made plans, on their way to one of our Ashrams [meetings, in India], to separate; their married life, they thought, was intolerable. But at the Ashram they surrendered to God. When each got rid of the barrier of the unsurrendered self, they came together like two magnets. They reported that they went back from the Ashram 'as on a honeymoon'. The wrong reactions to each other came out of the unsurendered self. Now they are happy with each other and effective in their pastoral work." (p. 92)

"A woman came to our Ashram, and in the 'Open Heart' session, where we tell our needs, she said: 'I've come here to find out how to manage my family.' Note she used 'manage'. Deep down she wanted to boss her family. When she surrendered her bossy self to Christ a great burden was lifted, she no longer had the thorny job of managing her family, all she had to do was love them, and the management in large measure took care of itself." (p. 116)

"If this [in the examples he has been giving] can happen among the laity, it can and does happen among the clergy. For many clergymen give up everything to be a clergyman, everything except the clergyman. Jesus said: 'If any man would come after me let him hate father and mother, brothers and sisters, yea and his own self also.' Why did He put that last, 'yea and his own self also'? Because it is the last thing we ever give up. Yet until we let the self go we are trifling with this business of being a Christian. The Christian life simply cannot be lived unless we surrender the self." (p. 119)